How to Write a Eulogy

Funeral Directors

A eulogy is a form of public speech given in memory of a deceased person, usually at a burial or commemoration ceremony.


The objective of a eulogy is as much to honour the memory of a loved one as to paint a complimentary portrait. Writing this speech is a real work of remembrance, intended to leave a positive image of the dead in the collective memory.


As a eulogy is designed to be read in front of an audience, there are some key points to take into consideration when writing one.

Choose the tone carefully

Do not be afraid to write a text too personal. You can either choose a serious, but friendly tone, or you can focus on delivering entertaining content about your loved one, talking about memories and their charming qualities.

Know your audience

Usually, family and friends are those who will listen to your eulogy. Therefore, it is always better to be straightforward and focus on the positive.


On the off chance that the individual was troublesome or unnecessarily negative, abstain from writing about it or suggest it delicately.  Restrain from mentioning anything that would affront, stun, or befuddle the gathering of people.

Be brief and efficient

Blueprint the tribute before you begin composing. Conceptualise all the areas you want to cover and give your tribute a start, an ending and a conclusion. Also speak to your Funeral Director about the timing. Most Sydney funeral directors will be willing to co-ordinate with you on things like timing.


Abstain from writing too much about a single story or particular quality, and make sure you use a vocabulary that everyone will understand.

Writing your content

It will be impossible to write everything you wish about your cherished one, thus, pay more attention to those unique qualities and experiences you have shared. Your eulogy must have structure and direction. Therefore, it needs an introduction, a body, and a conclusion.


The introduction should contain a few details about yourself and your relationship with the deceased.


Body. Mention few of their qualities, or the things you most appreciate about them and tell few stories that are more likely to show those qualities.


Furthermore, you can also choose to read a poem that expresses the way you feel about the one who passed away.


Conclusion. Your eulogy should conclude with a summary of your feelings towards the loved one, and, it should sound like a tribute to them. There are plenty of examples among Sydney funeral directors on the style and length of a eulogy that you could use to guide you.

Feedback from family and friends

Once you are done writing your eulogy ask your friends and family to read it and give you feedback.


Having other people read your eulogy before you get to read in front of everyone, will help you understand how would your audience receive your tribute and if it needs adjustment.

Writing a eulogy and reading it at a funeral may be an extremely difficult thing to do for most of us, but it is also beneficial, as it gives you the chance to say goodbye in a more personal manner, it gives you the opportunity to express your feelings and thoughts, therefore have some sort of closure, and it is indeed a elegant way of saying goodbye to a loved one.


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